我也知道，這不是一個現象，其實，這是一個「過程」，孩子和父母都在學習的一個過程。
孩子學習如何過他自己的生活，父母學習如何接受孩子已經長大了的事實。這過程有點苦，但每個人都會經過。
& nbsp;想起一句老前輩的話：
「當孩子大時，父母要學會三個心──
不要太關心，不要好奇心，不要太熱心。」孩子都希望有自己的空間，父母太侵入，孩子就會逃避。
我回頭告訴妻子：「我們自己吃吧！」
到了餐桌前，我茫茫然停下來問妻子：「我這樣穿好看嗎？」
給聰明年長者幸福十誡
'Ten taboos to happiness ' for the intelligent aged persons
一、不要再替成年子女操心，才不會碎碎唸。
Don't be concerned about adult children any more,otherwise, cannot
stop the annoying chatters.
二、不要再將成年子女當成未成年來「監護」，以免顧人怨。
Don't regard the adult children as of under age and serve as a
guardian for them,
so to avoid incurring complaints.
三、不必事事都「非知道不可」，尊重已成年子女的隱私權、自主權。
No necessary to know everything, pay respect to the privacy
and the right
of decision-making of adult children.
四、不要再以兒、孫為生活重心，尋找自己的園地，才不致天天望穿秋水。
Don't regard children and grandchildren as a center of life, look for
personal social circles, so to avoid trapping yourself in the dilemma of
anxious expectation and disappointment daily.
五、不要逢人就訴苦，寧可寫作、畫畫、練功、唱歌,以藝術、創作昇華情緒。
Raise a habit of writing, painting, exercising, singing to
sublime your mood
by arts and creation rather than complain to people coming across.
六、不要凡事抱怨，多欣賞、感謝別人為取悅你所做的努力。
More admiration, less complaints and appreciate what other people have
Done for pleasing you.
七、不要因孫輩和子女媳婿爭執衝突，這樣只會惡性循環，害了你的孫輩。
Don't involve in the dispute between grandchildren and adult children,
this act just causes adverse e! ffects i n a bad circle and hurt
your grandchildren.
八、不要因病痛而唉唉叫，有病要治病，領了藥要服藥，治不好的要忍耐。
Don't cry over sickness, just go to see a doctor and take the
necessary medicalpills as
prescribed, and be patient if failed to cure.
九、不要疑心病太重，要感激還願意留在你身邊的人，免得最後連他也走了！
Don't be skeptical to others too much, be grateful to the person who
left around you, otherwise, he will go away from you too eventually.
十、要多多培養宗教情操，有堅定的信仰，對未來抱著開心、樂觀的態度。
Participate in religious activities often, be stick to belief and take
pleasant,optimistic attitudes toward the future.
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